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How to deal with loss?
Hey folx,
last year several famous people died. In the past years several people i knew lost their lifes, too. And over my whole life time, well, several close people lost their lifes. So, in one way, i think, i can be happy to be still around. Or as other people would say: lucky him. In any way, i always thought, for me the best way to deal with loss is to humor it. Bad humor, good humor, whatever.
Why is it, that some people call it bad taste? Or that i am a horrible person? Why do they not consider, that i am sad or suffer too?
Though i am not a jewish person, but the best jokes about the holocaust come from jewish people. Some things are simply horrible and can blow someone's mind.
Whats your take?
last year several famous people died. In the past years several people i knew lost their lifes, too. And over my whole life time, well, several close people lost their lifes. So, in one way, i think, i can be happy to be still around. Or as other people would say: lucky him. In any way, i always thought, for me the best way to deal with loss is to humor it. Bad humor, good humor, whatever.
Why is it, that some people call it bad taste? Or that i am a horrible person? Why do they not consider, that i am sad or suffer too?
Though i am not a jewish person, but the best jokes about the holocaust come from jewish people. Some things are simply horrible and can blow someone's mind.
Whats your take?
RE: How to deal with loss?
Everyone deals in their own way. Some more religious than others. Some as you do. Some are hypocrites and can't stand when others do not do as they do.Respect every person and their right to respond how they feel. All know when it is not right and proper. say something and then let it go. There's a lot of "Trumps" out there
RE: How to deal with loss?
Because some people are narrow-minded and they dont realize that there are ways of dealing with pain that are different from theirs. Humour is a well known defence mechanism, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with it, as someone said here, only people of a certain level of intelligence are able to understand that. The best comedians are very damaged and lonely and broken people inside for a reason. The smartest also.
U shouldnt feel bad about it, Olaf, also u shouldnt care what people think of the way u are dealing with loss. Its ur life and u know better whats working best for u. People love judging others because it makes them feel better about themselves
U shouldnt feel bad about it, Olaf, also u shouldnt care what people think of the way u are dealing with loss. Its ur life and u know better whats working best for u. People love judging others because it makes them feel better about themselves
RE: How to deal with loss?
As you are speaker and writer of English as a second language, I agree with your opinion and more importantly impressed with the construction of your message. It is my opinion written very well.
RE: How to deal with loss?
Well said! Can't tell you how many people have no concept of multiple ways of dealing with grief. When I had someone close to me die I wanted to keep working the next few days. People would ask me "How can you work now"? Work was my stable anchor until i could deal with the loss in my own way. More people need to have an open mind.
RE: How to deal with loss?
I understand u A LOT ,cose the same here with me !!!1LOL
just nobody cant follow my humor (when feel bad ) even u!!! why???????
hahaha
just nobody cant follow my humor (when feel bad ) even u!!! why???????
hahaha
RE: How to deal with loss?
Well I guess it depends on the context... it's tricky, right? What other people believe about dying, how fearful (or joyful?) they might be. I do think you should have some sensitivity to what others are experiencing. And in some situations it would just be tough to find humor. You can imagine these, and you can find compassion within yourself for others as you hope others will treat you with compassion.
But I think humor can also have the positive effect of connecting you to others at a time when perhaps you need it most. I always liked the tradition of the Irish wake, during which you celebrate the life of the person who has passed. It gives you the space to mourn or celebrate as you see fit.
Hope that helps a tiny bit.
But I think humor can also have the positive effect of connecting you to others at a time when perhaps you need it most. I always liked the tradition of the Irish wake, during which you celebrate the life of the person who has passed. It gives you the space to mourn or celebrate as you see fit.
Hope that helps a tiny bit.
RE: How to deal with loss?
Everyone grieves in their own way. For some, humor seems disrespectful, but i know from personal experience that humor can ease the oppressiveness of grief. You mentioned bad humor good humor, and people saying it is bad taste. Perhaps it is the type of humor or the overuse of humor to which they are reacting or taking offense. I don't think all humor is appropriate in a grief situation. Telling a dirty joke at a funeral I think would leave people aghast. But telling a humorous anecdote from the person's life can be a big help for the grieving.
And since everyone grieves in their own way, we should always be sensitive to the fact that what is beneficial to us might be hurtful to someone else, or that what we think is funny, others might be offended by.
And since everyone grieves in their own way, we should always be sensitive to the fact that what is beneficial to us might be hurtful to someone else, or that what we think is funny, others might be offended by.
RE: How to deal with loss?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ur8j4xWe_44
"Death belongs to life as birth does" (Tagore)
"Death belongs to life as birth does" (Tagore)
Times Are a Changing?
Been spending some time on another site and there seems to be so much anal happening. Back in the day this was quite taboo. Are there more girls into this than I thought?
RE: Times Are a Changing?
I think erotism is about who u are u doing it with, not what u are doing:) When u love ur partner-there isnt a single thing u do that will seem vuglar or dirty. Or is it just me?
RE: Times Are a Changing?
I think erotism is about who u are u doing it with, not what u are doing:) When u love ur partner-there isnt a single thing u do that will seem vuglar or dirty. Or is it just me?
RE: Times Are a Changing?
I think erotism is about who u are u doing it with, not what u are doing:) When u love ur partner-there isnt a single thing u do that will seem vuglar or dirty. Or is it just me?
RE: Times Are a Changing?
I don't agree. so I would think it was just you. Two loving, consenting adults doesn't mean that there are no boundaries, no limits. Loving means respecting your partner's boundaries. Of course, if both persons do not consider anal vulgar, and love doing it, that is one thing. But I suspect that for the vast majority of couples one, maybe both, will draw the line at certain things. I would love to try anal sex giving it. but not sure I would enjoy receiving it. I love oral sex, both giving and receiving. But i have had partners who do not enjoy and do not want it, especially giving it. As a loving partner, I'm willing to respect what my partner wants, even though it may mean sacrificing something that I might enjoy. Of course, there is give and take on both sides.
RE: Times Are a Changing?
Of couse i didnt mean it when one partner wants it and the other one doesnt. Obviously.
RE: Times Are a Changing?
Mansplaining "...occurs when a man talks condescendingly to someone (especially a woman) about something he has incomplete knowledge of, with the mistaken assumption that he knows more about it than the person he's talking to does."
If the shoe fits...
If the shoe fits...
RE: Times Are a Changing?
Like I said... bullshit. And by the way. the shoe fits you perfectly
RE: Times Are a Changing?
Reading through this thread, I have to side with Chezkaslove on this one. I don't read his words as condescending or patronizing. He was just explaining his view. I think you unjustly labeled him. However, I also think his reaction to you was over the top
RE: Times Are a Changing?
I-stud, I am siding with Monika on this one, as I see this in context of a reply to her post. CL took no pains to determine what she meant before "correcting" her thinking. You disagree but I found his tone condescending. I still do.
I do appreciate your response, and I see your point. You always make me think, and I admit I reacted to the tone of his post more than anything else. But at this point I see no need to suffer a humorless pinprick, so I'll move along.
I do appreciate your response, and I see your point. You always make me think, and I admit I reacted to the tone of his post more than anything else. But at this point I see no need to suffer a humorless pinprick, so I'll move along.
RE: Times Are a Changing?
Tone from text is really hard to gauge. Be careful with that. That's the whole problem with text-only communication. Too much is lost: Facial expressions, voice inflection, gestures. It's too easy to read into something what may not be there. I think he was just wordy trying to explain his view. You read him as condescending.
RE: Times Are a Changing?
I don't think it was obvious, Monika. And you did ask for others' opinion about what you wrote.
RE: Times Are a Changing?
"Is it just me?" is more of a rethorical question, helping to explain my point of view. And yes it was obvious, why would i talk about something that my partner doesnt like or wanna do, do u think i, or anyone (sane) would take any pleasure from this situation?
RE: Times Are a Changing?
I think porn is the reason it seems more prevalent. Porn pushes the envelope because like a drug, there is a numbing effect with porn -- you reach a point where what you are watching is no longer as effective in getting you off, and so more extreme types of porn are needed. One may get excited in the beginning watching simple intercourse sex, but as one watches more and more porn, more extreme forms are needed, so one may progress from straight heterosexual sex, to watching lesbian, or gay, or transgender; or one may move into extreme sex such as bondage/domination to punishment, to fetishes, fisting, or even excrement in order to get off. Porn is there to oblige and fill the need. But even though I haven't seen statistics on it, I would guess that for the average person much of what porn promotes is seen as vulgar or aberrations or downright repulsive, and they want more basic forms of sexual entertainment and experience.
RE: HappY New Year CC!
Happy New Yearto you too, girl!
Many happy moments to come:)
Many happy moments to come:)
time passages....
On 2nd January I will be 75. Long overdue to leave CamContacts?
I have enjoyed my time here, even the trolls have been amusing.
A fun site, made good friends in real, both hosts and members.
Thank you all. :)
I have enjoyed my time here, even the trolls have been amusing.
A fun site, made good friends in real, both hosts and members.
Thank you all. :)
RE: time passages....
ha ha allyoop can go, see ya. But Nick184 (or whatever you're called now) hasn't announced any retirement, we'll expect to see him in the new year! 75 is 38 in camcontact years.
RE: time passages....
allyoop you are one of the best here, next to wayne and johnz whom has left here to, you will be miss and I wish you the best and a very special happy birthday coming up. Always stay safe, stay cool, keep on smiling and love your neighbors.
RE: time passages....
Heeyyy, AllyOooopzzz, stay strong and healthy, mate. And no reason to leave CC: some hosts will keep you young here, I'm sure. Greetzzz. Fil
RE: time passages....
good luck nick...i might do the same....will be tough for sure..many nice ppl here and will miss them :)
RE: time passages....
Happy Birthday. Whatever your decision many in this little "tribe" of CC wish you well. And be assured if you disappear many will miss you. Your presence was a positive one. I wish you nothing but a good ride in this adventure we call life.
A Tribute to Ally
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sz6IpmmYSXA
Happy Three-Quarter Century Mark!
Happy Three-Quarter Century Mark!
RE: Alcohol
I dont mind drinking 2-3 shots of some good liquer with my videoguests (Regulars mostly) from time to time. And they drink some wine or whisky in my company as well. Why not? Can be rather relaxing...
RE: Alcohol
I dont like alcohol especially when i am online! i like drunk viewers lol)
RE: Alcohol
Drunk viewers who fall asleep while in private session. And the clock just keeps ticking along! haha
RE: Alcohol
Drunk viewers who fall asleep while in private session. And the clock just keeps ticking along! haha
RE: Alcohol
Drunk viewers who fall asleep while in private session. And the clock just keeps ticking along! haha
MissWaltrude owns me
She is magnificent.
She is better than you.
You are the type of idiot like me that actually goes in and reads forum posts instead of just picking a person to throw money at because you like their pictures. But unlike me you haven't been mentally raped by her yet. Do yourself a favour; let her run you over.
Then thank me for the advice you idiot.
She is better than you.
You are the type of idiot like me that actually goes in and reads forum posts instead of just picking a person to throw money at because you like their pictures. But unlike me you haven't been mentally raped by her yet. Do yourself a favour; let her run you over.
Then thank me for the advice you idiot.
To bad , so sad
Carrie Fisher has died in hospital after suffering a massive heart attack while flying from London to Los Angeles last week.
May the force be with you,Princess
May the force be with you,Princess
RE: What is special music for you?
For me the one and olnly is George Michael. I was crying all day yesterday. Still cant believe he's gone. And probably won't
RE: What is special music for you?
Lafayette Afro Rock Band - https://youtu.be/A3ckIovZRwk
Many an allnight house party, tunes like this going on, all faded memories from 20 years ago brought into the light with an internet trawl
Many an allnight house party, tunes like this going on, all faded memories from 20 years ago brought into the light with an internet trawl
The whole world cries at the loss.....
May the families of the members of the Alexandrov Ensemble....and the people of Russia....feel the sympathy of other peoples from all over the world at the loss of this great choir....our prayers go out to you....
RE: The whole world cries at the loss.....
We have lost too many great musicians and artists this year already. And this was a humanitarian mission! Very sad and tragic... I will light a candle tonight. My condolences to the Russian people and the families of those lost.
RE: The whole world cries at the loss.....
Its very sad, Elena
I spent over an hour watching and listening to the Red Army Choir on Youtube when I heard about the crash. They are an amazing ensemble
I spent over an hour watching and listening to the Red Army Choir on Youtube when I heard about the crash. They are an amazing ensemble
Seasons Greetings
For those of you whose circumstances find you alone, may peace, tranquility and ease bless you during these days. And may you find joy in the company of others.
Merry Christmas
Blessings to all of you and family this holiday season. May all your Christmas wishes come true.
Your friend...Mark
Hugs and Kisses
Your friend...Mark
Hugs and Kisses
BKK night clubs
hello ) /I ll be very gratefull if someone will suggest me nice night club in Bangkok xxxx
Happy Hour at night times
With thanks to CC for the Happy Hour between 22:00 GMT on Thursday and 02:00 GMT on Friday, last week: very thoughtful for European watchers: at night we....sleep...
An appeal to beautiful hosts this festive period
Hello, as it's coming up to the festive period here in the west next weekend and after, I'm looking to have a little treat after a difficult year.
So, for those beautiful stunning hosts out there (and there are a lot), I'm looking to treat myself with a good session with one of you volunteers, it should be fun, you'll laugh, and hopefully, help me empty my love spuds. I look forward to it, peace love, peace love, peace love
So, for those beautiful stunning hosts out there (and there are a lot), I'm looking to treat myself with a good session with one of you volunteers, it should be fun, you'll laugh, and hopefully, help me empty my love spuds. I look forward to it, peace love, peace love, peace love
RE: An appeal to beautiful hosts this festive period
wow maybe I need to come see you 121miss!!
RE: uhm, I have a problem
oh... just log on anyway. I'm sure there are others who need "volunteers" to celebrate this festive period :)
RE: uhm, I have a problem
I would say, from your pictures, you are rather overqualified for this role, maybe too beautiful
This Ever Happen?
Has anybody here stumbled across a host and found that they know her from somewhere else? I'm thinking like "hey that's the hot girl from the accounting dept at work"!, or, "hey, I went to school with her". Just wondering 'cause I think that would be a hoot.
RE: This Ever Happen?
pretty unlikely. most girls block viewers from their own counties. (if not they should)
RE: This Ever Happen?
role play, yes plenty of times, when I get involve in a private here with a host something comes up that I seen her before here in my hometown, oh wait your question was did it ever happen, yes once I had a private with an ex-host here that I actually seen her at McDonalds here, I had to go back several times there to see if I would meet her again
RE: This Ever Happen?
it did happen to me once. I was on Holiday and ran into a host I had seen several times in the same resort. She really freaked out. Her boyfriend didn't know he part time job LOL. It was okay I stayed discreet as I did not want to explain to my GF at the time either. We had a great laugh later when we were here again.
RE: This Ever Happen?
A couple of years ago I spoke with a host in community chat. Turns out she lived very close to me. My sense is we were both taken a bit by surprise. I live in US and first off there are not all that many US hosts here compared to other countries. My sense is we were both a bit uneasy about it. I never did vid her..but yes..i did look at her profile pics. Who knows...I still may bump into her some day and if I do I am sure I will pretend I have no idea who she is.
Unique!! Just today and tomorrow!
UNIQUE!! ONLY TODAY AND TOMORROW. BLACK LEATHER CLOTHING TOENAILS! COME TO MY PRIVATE AND SEE!!
RE: Unique!! Just today and tomorrow!
would be hard for you, Queen, but not for me, I love long toenails and also I used to let them grow for years. Thats why my feet are special :). Dont worry about shoes, I handle this issue too ;)