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You shouldn't stay with someone just because they try to blackmail you emotionally. From what you say he is unlikely to change especially while you stay with him. As for getting him out of your house i do not know how you will achieve this.

I think u know the answer urself.

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Call 911 (police)

exactally. call the police and have him taken to spend the night in jail, where he will end up permanantly if he keeps up his behaviour. This will make everything more clear for you both. He will either get his act together, or get really mad. either way, you need to document it all.

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Dear ..where r u from? xoxoxo

Adios , Auf Wiedersehn , Au Revoir , Goodbye , See ya , ....... whichever language you use the only option is bye bye and look for something better in your life ........ its that simple

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It is a sad but true fact that domestic violence is not uncommon in relationships. That does not make it right though. Be it the man or the woman who is the aggressor it is a devastating and confidence shaking experience. Both men and women justify the attacks out of some deluded sense of love but the truth is that one side or the other is controlling and manipulative and highly likely to be possessive too. These are not good traits to have in any relationship let alone a happy one.

Yesterday in the UK there was a news story about how the incidences of violence in teenage relationships is on the rise. The statistics are horrifying.

In a survey commissioned by the NSPCC and sampled from 1353 teenagers aged between 13-17 a quarter of girls and 18% of boys reported physical partner violence and 1 in 3 girls and 13% of boys reported sexual partner violence.

This just goes to show it is a trend from a very early age but that does NOT mean it is right.

For yourself you should protect you sanity and your safety and find a way to cut out this horror from your life. Start asking yourself what it is you really feel when he is unreasonable uncaring hurtful or self destructive. Is it really about him? Or is it really about trying to control you? In which case don't you think you have a right to be in charge of your own life for a change?

I realise there are a whole bunch of reasons women stay with abusive men, be it financial, emotional, even physiological or physical addiction. But if you want to have a chance at a happy and fulfilling life you have to break that hold and stand up on your own. How you do that I cannot say but maybe you have friends, maybe relatives maybe even a womans abuse charity can give you the help you need. No one should have to suffer physical mental and emotional torture.

TNT

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Today, here in the States, there's a story that's become a big debate all over the news. It centers on a woman who wanted to stay away from an abusive man who was constantly losing his temper and threatening her, so she went to court to get a restraining order. Unfortunately, the Judge didn't think the man's threats seemed so bad, so he told the woman and man to come back in a few more days, when he would have more time to hear all the details. That court hearing would have been today...

...Except sadly the man, in a moment of anger, got a gun and killed the girl and then shot himself. So now the story is all over the news and people are asking questions like -- Why didn't the judge order the man to stay away when he had the chance? Why didn't the girl do a better job defending herself if she knew he was this angry and bitter? Why didn't her family or friends do more to protect her since they knew the guy was a psycho? Even the girl's Father was on the news saying this should serve as a warning for anyone who finds themself in an abusive situation -- and they should NOT wait until things get SO bad and something tragic happens.

What caught my eye was the way you ended your post. If he's constantly acting this way, even in public... and if its reached the point where you're even afraid to say something because it will set him off... then something is SERIOUSLY wrong. Because a wife should always be able to talk to her husband -- that's what a healthy and emotionally sound marriage is based on.

My advice? Pack a bag... go to family or a friend... but GET OUT NOW. And DON'T wait. Send him the message that you WON'T tolerate being abused anymore. And frankly -- fuck him if he continues to treat you this way. Just like all the other hosts have said, no woman deserves to be treated this badly by a man. It's not a healthy relationship and it will make you an emotional wreck... then it will start to take a toll on you and make feel physically sick... or worst of all something really bad might happen, like the story I told above.

Your first responsibility is to yourself and being safe. And do NOT feel any guilt or shame. There's never anything wrong with a person simply being cautious and protecting them self.

In the end -- at best -- he'll realize you are finally standing up to him and he can't be a bully anymore. And then hopefully you can talk to him like a wife should be able to speak up. Then you can try to resolve these problems somehow -- ideally with professional help, especially if he really suffers from deep anger issues.

At worst -- he'll continue to rant and have anger fits, but at least you'll be safely away. But at least you'll have some distance between the two of you, so you won't feel intimidated or threatened. Then you'll be able to think more clearly about what you want to do next. But that really IS the most important thing you need to do right now. You need to put some space between you -- and right away -- so you are safe and able to collect your thoughts properly.

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We do ??????

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Oh okay. Hosts I really appreciate you all. Kisses and hugs and may all your dreams come true.

Same for you, Old Sport

Thank you very much. I hope you are well :)

Who cares about a smile :P

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You naughty girl i put you on my favorite list ;)

Your best chance to get a member's attention is to have a great main profile pic. That is what we usually see first. Even if we see your name in the forums, when we search for who you are, it is still our first impression after anything we've read about you. Then, depending on the member, he will either read your profile or check your archives or both. Personally, I find most profiles a waste of my time and don't usually read them too carefully, but many guys make their choices from them. I look at the main pic and then check the archives to see if I like them. I might also check the written profile but just for a few moments. Then I check the price, and if the pics look worthy of the price, I'm in video.

Profile photo is most important. Then i look at archive photos, including oldest ones. I like to see the evolution of your looks, if there ae old archive photos. Then, finally, i like to text chat a little first. If i think i will have an enjoyable time, I'm into video soon thereafter.

and how long host need2 chat with u,for?

It wouldn't be you since you had to ask :P

thx god:P

Glad you know ur not from me :D It's ur type I avoid, the one's with the "Wanna see me?" that follows their "Hi". Most uninteresting, and not eager to "learn" more than how many dollars/Euros/rubles/Insert ur denomination here they can suck me dry for.

For me just long enough to answer yes or no to the question "Do you get naked?"

Now that's what I call foreplay!

I doooooooooooooooooo....

or my question: do you get naked in open and use all your toys?

so what would be the ideal profile pic? what would you like to see in it? :)

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A smile. If a host looks in her pics like she is here under sufferance, or not enjoying the experience (even though that may be the reality), it is not a great draw.

I search the catagory I'm after, find girls I like, and try the least expensive first

Yeah a bit scary...But i love scary stuff))))))))

Some claim the painting by Stoneham is haunted and carries a curse. ))

that one's pretty cool
I like paintings/portraits that have the eerie effect of an otherwise normal scene where something is just subtly wrong.

creepy?
i would call it plain UGLY

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what joke?

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It could be any other girl, same as it could be any other member for any other girl. Dude, this isn't the way to show her that you really love her. At least post with your real member screen name. Don't be afraid.... I did it long time ago, it didn't work out, but at least she knew i didn't like any other girl.... or perhaps you tell other girls the same until one of them say "yes" to you?

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Maybe she doesn't respond because she is married 8)

I don't want destroy ur dreams, but for sure she has many others who tell her the same, and with all she flirts and makes them dream about anything impossible. It's just a business and women, all women, are cruel business makers!

Infatuation ? Lust ? Delusion ? ...... Although i think love is found here its a risky place to try and find it ........ and the internet feeds your dreams and hopes whereas reality is what matters . Have you met this host ?
I may like someone , care for them , love them as a friend but like anyone genuine love will only happen by being with them .. There are many single girls here and you have to question why is that ? Many here who dont have a proper ' normal ' relationship , again why is that ? ............. I know you are being yourself and expressing yourself but dont set yourself up for a fall , however that said its better you know if you are wasting your time :)))

come back to 121 and tell me more romantic feelings muuuuahh!!!

This is fun and interesting. Some people are showing they are really romantic at heart too. They're rooting us on and wishing us luck. So thank you! But others are being cynical. Perhaps because we met online or maybe because of your job. So boo on you!

I think we'll beat the odds because true love always wins.
But is this REALLY the girl I love? Hmm...let's find out.
I'm supposed to mail you something sexy to wear -- What is it? :)

Indeed! You were supposed to send me some hot tigh high boots!!

oh dear lover, you know you are mailing me a strapon......you know who wears the pants in this relationship....now back to 121 lover!

LMAO!!! Look at this -- a list of requests from hosts over what presents I should mail them begins. Well, I'm always open to sending a beautiful woman presents. So let's see -- "CG" wants thigh high boots, so she must have great legs to show off. And "Girl you love" wants a strap-on, so she can order me around. So it looks like we've got a mistress here too.

I have to admit both are sexy, playful requests. And visually thigh high boots and a strap-on would go together. Hmm...maybe I'll have to put you two together for a threesome and see what happens then! :)

You didnt seem like the man who would be here flirting with other women, or so you said. Maybe I really don't know you.

LOL who did I flirt with? I just answered the 2 posts above and wished another host well! Besides, if you're REALLY the girl I love, you get to flirt and play with other men all the time. So fair is fair. Can't I have a little fun on a message board, where all I'm doing is talking, but NOT doing anything?

Hmm...or could it be that the girl I love is JEALOUS if I talk to another woman? Could it be that the girl I love is very PASSIONATE and POSSESSIVE? Maybe she cares so much for me now -- as much as she hates to admit it -- that she now only wants me for herself? But if that's true, then where is the post I most wanted to see? After all, I was bold and daring. I shouted from the highest mountain I LOVE YOU!!! So where is a post where she simply says I LOVE YOU TOO?

So maybe I don't know you either.
>sniff< now you've made me so sad I will cry.
>HONK< See? That's me blowing my nose I'm SO sad!!!

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Well hopefully it sounds familiar because you've got a romantic guy saying sweet things to you too. Someone who will tell you how beautiful you are as a woman and as a real person inside.

But your profile is blocked to me "based on Viewers’ location, language or other demographical details" -- so it can't be me!

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LOL well, no -- not her. You're right, I wasn't planning to send HotAsian anything, but I AM planning to send my real love a few things for fun. After all, I've already done the shopping and have things piled up in the other room!

I was just making a light joke since HotAsian answered my original post. So out of curiosity, I called up her profile and its not even accessible to me because of where I live. So as I said before...and to be a gentleman... I wish her all the best and hope she has someone doing nice things for her -- but it's obviously not gonna be me since I can't even read her profile!

You are SO generous.

ccMail her yourself. Blocking countries does not mean you are on her email blacklist. Unless you have really annoyed her and you are..

thanks...but there is no profile info or way to click on email....apparently the uk is blocked to...i am in USA

You do not need to see her profile to email her. Click on ccMail and at the top you have button marked compose.. It will open up a blank email into which you put the hosts name as the recipient. Type your message and send. If the profile is deleted it will not allow you to send to a non-existent name.

Mike, I thought for one wonderful moment asianpie had returned but no...: -((
This host blocks UK (or me!). You in UK?

USA?? (:((

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i will email her but not tell any of you guys muahhahahahah

The arrows are only on Firefox and Google Chrome. On IE the cover girl pics scroll across automatically.
You really have to be almost blind to not notice the two arrows on each side of the 3 cover girl pics. Also the girls who appeart change each time a member goes on the home page. The EMail cc sent to all members annoincing the competition states that there are 10 cover girls and 50 cupids. What more could CC do?

The only way I can recreate your problem with the pics is by having a small window open when I click to open the gallery. If i do this even making the window larger or putting it to full screen does not change things and I still have to scroll. Make sure your browser is full screen when you open the gallery. If it still happens then maybe you have a very small display. BTW isn't it a bit late to post this. Contest has basically finished.

First, who cares if it is at the end of the contest? It is important for CC to know that not everyone noticed all the cover girls and to consider a new layout in the future for the home page (and the cover galleries).

Second, not everyone checks their emails all the time.

Third, I use IE and the covers did not always scroll automatically, unlike say the xmas contest two years ago where they always scroll in a circle.

Fourth, depending on browsers, resolution, et cetera, I can see someone not noticing the arrows. I like bigger icons and fonts so I use 800X600 most of the time, for example.

Fifth, I will try what you said to see if that helps view the gallery. Thanks.

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in IE6 i could only see the first two names, not even pictures of those two. I had to use "view source" to see winner names. (not pleasant, lol)

The arrows are blue on my PC.

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If your display is 800 x 600 this could be the reason for you having to scroll the cover girl gallery pics.

dont like that cant see all 10girls same time.many of guys even didnt knew that there r 10 covergirls.also pics looking very pale.like a ghosts:P...wouldb better when all 10 r visible.and when all girls are stand,so can c from toes to head..

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It would be nice if the thread stayed on topic, and the topic was about being able to view the pics and the home page layout, not who was the best covergirl or the quality of the pics. Unfortunately, you chose to jump at the chance to criticize your fellow hosts, some of whom obviously worked very, very hard on the pics.

Hosts such as you need to remember that the pics are ultimately for the members. It isn't about pleasing the hosts and giving them what they want. It is about giving the members what they want. After all, members are the customers and the point of pics and contests is to draw them to the site.

Hosts need to only feel that they have a fair chance to be chosen. It isn't about what they like or don't like in terms of pics. And in terms of your criticisms, first, there were new faces, just as CC promised. In fact, there were a few hosts that I never even noticed before. Second, some of the hosts pics were creative and were not boring, and often, less is more.

Personally, I liked three hosts in particular. Obviously, I liked AxB's pics, and they don't get old to me regardless of how many times she is chosen to be a cover. The same goes for Casablancka. She is a natural exotic beauty, and I believe she was the only one to take pics outside in the snow. Finally, I liked HoneyKET. Her pics may appear to be boring to some, but she came off as a sweet innocent young woman and for her look, the pics were perfect.

All three of these hosts did an excellent job in this member's opinion and should be praised, not criticized.

The pictures weren't taken outside in the snow. It's photoshop:)

With all due respect to everyone, I work very, very hard on my pictures each contest, and the pictures were taken outside in the cold and the snow. It was not some special effect with photoshop. It was -25 C and I was only outside about 2 minutes. My fotographer took many many pics very fast, and I picked the best ones:)

Damn you mean I could have peaked over the fence and seen you naked for two minutes for free and for real not on cam :P

Stop it!!! You are going to make it so nobody wants to be a cover girl if they think INYF will be spying on them. :p

Oh ok, sorry me then:) They just looked a bit unreal thats why i thought it was photoshop:) Well done:)

:)np

First, I wasn't there any more than you were so there is no way for either of us to know. She does seem to be behaving like someone that is cold so it seems like she was outside to me. Second, they look very realistic to me, be them outside for real, in front of a glass window, or with photoshop. Third, they are great pics regardless of the use of photoshop. Fourth, the main issue was originality of pics, and she is the only one with those type of pics.

There is entirely too much jealously amongst hosts and the members that support them. At least if you are going to attack someone's pics or the person herself, make sure you have the evidence to back it up, and like I said, I don't think you were there any more than I was.

Jealousy? No way. I like Casa, and i think she is great. And i've already appologized to her, everyone can be mistaken;)

thank u:) all is ok :D

nice pics she made this time... ofcouse its not fotoshop... im professional in fotoshop and i see her skin have light of sun,what is impossible2 make in fotoshop, ,,,if u dont know.better dont say :-)

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I agree Casablancka's pictures are the best in my opinion,, my poor baby caught a cold next day after this outside photosession.,I pleaded with her not to do outside pics,its crazy I meant too cold. Casablankca's pictures are the most original and she is a natural beauty,,I love my Bambi. Alexa is absolutely gorgeous

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hehe

I didn't know she was Chanel's friend, lol, but gfs need to stick up for each other I guess.

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Find a host that has a complete heart.

To do this, click on "Heart Puzzle" on the left column, then the "See the status of your puzzle" button in the center, then "see chathosts completing their puzzles" button in the center again.

Pick one you like. (such as HottiEssex) .Go to her profile, See if yours is a match by clicking on the "see if we can combine hearts" button

congrats. how to finish the puzzle is a puzzle in itself. Ive spent 4500 - 5500 dollars so far and still need one piece. But who's counting. Th host I wanna join with already compleated her heart so I'm left with a broken one.

and you keep spending?...LOL...left with a broken virtual heart and broken wallet too.

I am paid about 8000 .- 9000 usd per week so it doesnt break the wallet that much. Its more a question of the annoyed feeling of unsettlement and someone holding u back. Know the feeling ?

i need one too.:P got stuck on one peice.maybe you can join me?:P

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Mmmm i wudnt mind Robbie to be my Valentine;)

Dont worry, be happy :-)

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My pal foot foot - The Shaggs

poor dear i think the contest has made you a little crazy

Money Can't Buy Me Love :)

Songs for my valentine
Give the game away
In rhyme I make you mine
Sing all I cannot say
I known mine are the tears I never cry
I know mine is a love I must deny

Songs for my valentine
Give the game away

I see you every day
With happy home and child
I look the other way
Cold on the outside
I know mine are the arms you'll never hold
I know mine is a love remains untold
Songs for my valentine
Oh they give the game away

T'pau

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I use to love her......but i had to kill her, GNR

The bitch is back - Elton John

Love Stinks

At least that is what it was after my last valentines day I celebrated in 2003

"I Don't Believe in Love" Queensryche

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yes !! very hard ... u made me cry

wish u win baby!
good luck!!

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congrats alex:)hope u will b next winner,.u deserve it;)good luck to u:)xxx

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I guess i grew up ;)
Anyway..i switched on playback mode but i am around,if someone wants to match just drop me a line and i will see it.
Good luck everyone, :-)

there r 13 more who complete and waiting...gfoodluck2 all..

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Congrats Dani!!

And here's hoping they make pole dancing an Olympic sport... :P

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another notch in hoo's belt... u sure do get around, lol.... but that's what we're here for :p

Can I apply for the job?

YAY DANI!

I m here for you, babe !!!!